Andy Witham
There's a beat-up copy of 1984 sitting on my desk right now.
It's been there for a few days. I keep looking at it.
Not because of Orwell. Because of the kid who gave it to me.
I was living in Hamilton, Ontario. Found a cell phone on the ledge by my driveway. Picked it up, called a number in the contacts, told them I had their friend's phone.
A few hours later, this kid shows up at my door. Young. Sweet. Maybe autistic, I'm not sure. Had a woman with him. Sister, friend, I don't know.
He was grateful in a way you almost never see. Not polite grateful. The real kind. Like returning his phone was the biggest thing anyone had done for him in a long time.
We talked for a while. One of those random nights where you meet someone and think, "I could be friends with this person."
I never saw him again.
Before he left, he handed me his copy of 1984. Told me he was an anarchist. I said I'd always meant to read it. Inside the front cover he'd written: "To the Angel Sapien who returned my cellular device. Thank you. Andy."
I looked his name up a few years later. I'm pretty sure I found his obituary.
Here's what I keep thinking about:
Andy called himself an anarchist. If he were still around, I think he'd be furious about Trump. Probably would have fallen into the whole Antifa thing. Might have been one of those people I watch clips of and shake my head at.
And I'd still miss him.
That's the thing nobody on our side wants to say out loud. The people we're up against aren't all predators. Some of them are confused kids who fell down a rabbit hole and never found their way out. Some of them are sweet, lost people with terrible ideas and horrible mentors. Some of them are Andy.
I spend a lot of time teaching you how to spot traps. How to stop being prey. How to fight smarter. I mean every word of it.
But every once in a while I look at that book on my desk and I remember that the kid who gave it to me would probably hate everything I post.
And he was one of the kindest people I ever met.
I don't know what to do with that. I just know it's true.
Clay
P.S. If you've got an Andy in your life, someone good who got lost along the way, keep them in your thoughts today.